How to Get the Most Valuable Feedback You Can Get

Feedback is one of the best way to improve yourself. To make it really work it have to be able to get to you. "That's wrong" usually doesn't work as the person giving the feedback intended.

If the feedback is honest, understandable, from trustful person who knows your history and values it can make your mind shine for the brighter future with gratitude.

How to get such feedback?

We meet with feedback everyday. In work on how to improve your project, with your spouse on how to be emphatic or with your mentoring skills with your students.

Feedback is great! You can improve your weak points and make them stronger.

The longer you know the person, the better feedback can get (and give). You know his or her weak points, traumas, know the language they understand and - the most important thing when it comes to learning - have a trust bond.

How Do You Know?

To take the best out of the feedback, we have to compare it - before and after.

Thing is, we can barely process present moment and reflecting the past isn't much better. Do you know who you were a month back? A year back?

And do you know it or do you imagine it?

How do you know you made a progress?

But more important, how can you really appreciate yourself for making it through.

The One Person

Putting these question together, I get the best feedback when:

Sounds like futuristic empath skills?

Who is it?

Your spouse? Your sister or brother or your partners?

Almost there...

Actually everyone can do it themselves. You can do it right now.


Talk With Your Future Self

This is what I do for past 10 years and I'm very happy to share this little hack with you.

I write every 6 months (at least) with letter arrival a 1 year in the future. If I write today, the letter would arrive October 8th, 2018.

What I write about?

Usually I describe the present moment:

It can look like this:

What I Learned from this?

Try It Yourself

I don't use any local postal service nor home made box for this.

There is for this:

You can start with one and if you'll like it, you can get more. That's what I did :)

Inspire at Public Letters

The other interesting thing you can do is read public letter by other people. There are some very moving honest confessions, like alcoholism or domestic violence, from both sides.

Happy writing!

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